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Often associated with Samhain or Halloween, a "Dumb Supper" is an old tradition with European roots. It involves setting a place at the dinner table for the spirits of the deceased and observing a silent (aka Dumb) meal in their honor. A Dumb Supper can be a solo activity or you can invite friends and family to join. A Dumb Supper is intended to be a celebration of life, similar to the idea of Day of the Dead, when people honor their loved ones who have passed on with festivities and special foods. A Dumb Supper is an easy and simple ritual to do at home, as part of your Wheel of the Year journey.

The History of a “Dumb Supper”

There are a few theories of where and when the concept of a Dumb Supper originated. Some credit the Dumb Supper as an 19th century Appalachian tradition, while others claim it was born out of British love traditions, dating as far back as the 17th century. Early versions were usually centered around young women who would host a “Dumb Supper” as a way to find out who they would marry. There were various customs around hosting a Dumb Supper, including serving everything backwards and eating the meal at midnight.

This association between Halloween and love divination continued into the early 20th century. It was common to send a loved one a Halloween card, in the same way we might send Valentine’s Day cards today. The appeal of a Dumb Supper at Halloween also fits into the Victorian/Edwardian fascination with the occult that swept through Western Europe and the United States at the turn of the 20th century.

Dumb Supper’s eventually faded away as a tradition during the mid-20th century. More recently the custom as been revived by neo pagans as part of Samhain celebrations. Rather than a focus on love divination, the modern Dumb Supper is more in spirit of the Day of the Dead Celebrations of Latin America. Spirits of loved ones who have passed on are invited to the dinner, as a way to honor them and celebrate their life.

How to Host a Dumb Supper

Like many Wheel of the Year traditions, there is no right or wrong way to host a dumb supper. It can be a solo activity or you can host a gathering of friends and family to participate. It can be as simple or as elaborate as you wish to make it.

Here is a general guide for hosting a simple Dumb Supper that doesn’t require a lot of prep time or special items.

Decide on a date for your Dumb Supper. Traditionally, it's held on Halloween night or during the Samhain festival. Choose a quiet, dimly lit location, such as your dining room or outdoors in a peaceful garden. Arrange a table with a single place setting for each spirit you wish to invite. Place a candle at each setting.
Invite the spirits you wish to communicate with. You can do this through a simple spoken invitation or by writing their names on slips of paper and placing them under the appropriate plates.
Cook a simple meal with foods that were meaningful to your deceased loved ones or are associated with the season, such as apples, bread, and root vegetables.
Before starting the meal, invite the spirits to join you in your own words or with a traditional invocation. Express your love and respect for them and invite them to communicate with you if they wish.
Sit down at the table and start the meal. Serve each guest, whether in person or in spirit. Eat in silence and contemplate the memories and presence of the spirits you've invited.
After the meal, leave the room. If there are more than one person at the Dumb Supper, each person should leave the room one at a time.
Let the candle burn itself out. (But also keep an eye on it, for safety).